The Real Struggle Leaders Face
Most executives and founders I coach are not asking, “How do I say more?” They’re asking, “How do I say less, more clearly, to the right people at the right time?” They’re living in the tension between needing to communicate frequently and not wanting to overwhelm already stretched teams. Here’s what I hear leaders say when we start talking about communication:- “I feel like I’ve said this a hundred times, but it’s not showing up in people’s behavior.”
- “Different parts of the organization seem to be hearing totally different stories.”
- “We’re good at reacting, but we’re not communicating in a way that builds long-term trust.”
- “I’m exhausted from repeating myself and clarifying misunderstandings.”
What Most Leaders Try (That Doesn’t Work)
When communication starts to fray, leaders usually respond with more activity, not more intention. Here are some of the common patterns that don’t actually solve the deeper issue. 1. More Channels, Same Confusion You add one more tool, one more newsletter, or one more standing meeting. The logic is, “If we communicate more, people will finally get it.” In reality, without a clear communication strategy underneath, each new channel just adds another place for things to get lost, duplicated, or contradicted. 2. One Big Announcement, Then Silence Sometimes leaders put a lot of energy into a big all-hands or major email and then assume the message has landed. They’re ready to move on while their team is still processing what they heard. Without thoughtful follow-up, questions go underground, rumors grow, and people quietly fill in the gaps on their own. 3. Over-Optimistic Messaging Out of a desire to keep morale high, leaders can frame everything as “great news” even when there’s real loss, uncertainty, or risk. Team members sense the disconnect and start to wonder what else is being smoothed over. Trust erodes not because of the decision, but because of how it’s communicated. 4. Leader-Only Communication In some organizations, all meaningful communication flows from one or two senior leaders. Everyone else is left to interpret, translate, and sometimes guess. This places enormous pressure on the top and keeps others from growing as communicators. A healthy communication strategy builds shared responsibility, not dependence. In short, more words do not equal more clarity. You need a way of communicating that is as intentional as your business strategy.What Actually Works: A Communication Strategy that Serves Your People and Your Vision
When I work with leaders on communication, we’re not just crafting talking points. We’re building a rhythm and structure that aligns with your values, your culture, and your real-world constraints. Here are some of the principles that shape an effective communication strategy. Start with Purpose: Why Are We Communicating? Before you decide what to say or where to say it, clarify the purpose. Ask:- What’s the outcome I hope this communication creates?
- Who needs to feel informed, who needs to feel invited, and who needs to feel responsible?
- How will we know if this communication “worked”?
- Upward: Board, investors, or senior stakeholders—often focused on risk, return, and long-term direction.
- Across: Peers and cross-functional leaders—focused on coordination, dependencies, and shared resources.
- Downward: Direct reports and teams—focused on priorities, expectations, and support.
- Weekly or bi-weekly team updates focused on near-term priorities.
- Monthly or quarterly “state of the business” sessions that zoom out to bigger themes.
- Regular one-on-ones where people can process, question, and personalize what they’re hearing.
- Written: email, docs, chat—for clarity, documentation, and asynchronous alignment.
- Live: meetings, town halls—for nuance, emotion, and two-way conversation.
- Visual: slides, diagrams—for complex concepts that need to be seen as well as heard.
- “This change opens up these three possibilities…and it will also require us to let go of some things we care about.”
- “Our results are strong here, and we’re underperforming here. Both are true, and we need to look at both.”
Questions to Reflect On
- What is your current, unspoken communication strategy—what actually happens, not what’s on paper?
- Where do messages most often get lost, distorted, or delayed in your organization?
- Who consistently feels over-informed and who consistently feels under-informed?
- What one rhythm, if clarified and committed to, would immediately lower anxiety for your team?
- Where are you tempted to “spin” reality instead of telling the whole truth with care?

